The child naively believes that everything should be fair and everyone should be honest, that only good should prevail, that everybody should have what they want and there should be no pain or sadness. The child believes the world should be perfect and is outraged to discover it is not.
And the child is right.”
— Rabbi Tzvi Freeman
“Westerners are fond of the saying ‘Life isn’t fair.’ Then, they end in snide triumphant: ‘So get used to it!’ What a cruel, sadistic notion to revel in! What a terrible, patriarchal response to a child’s budding sense of ethics. Announce to an Iroquois, ‘Life isn’t fair,’ and her response will be: ‘Then make it fair!’” –Barbara Alice Mann
not to talk about doctor who but remember being a lonely depressed teenager and hearing him say ‘900 years of time and space and i’ve never met anyone who wasn’t important’
he was like ‘just this once-everybody lives’ and i chased that shit with homosexual determination for every day since, like maybe through pure force of will i could save everyone i loved from a system that wanted us dead
it’s like. I used to think my autism didn’t really include the need for routine but what I’ve found is that when it’s a Planned divergence in routine that’s fine (going on trips etc) and when I can Choose to divert my routine bc I know I can handle it that’s also fine (like deciding to go out for drinks or deciding to go to a movie or deciding to change dinner plans). but when Other People or Circumstances change my routine without prior warning that’s when my brain goes absolutely fucking insane.
and I feel like that’s not talked about enough bc I’ve always seen “needs routine” represented as someone who is unwilling to divert from their routine when like. no it’s absolutely fine just as long as I’m the one deciding when and how to divert it or I’ve been given plenty of advance warning that it’ll be changing.
A cat may go in a box of its own accord but it does not want to be put in a box
